The route to wholeness is fraught with difficulties, often resembling plodding through hazardous mud while carrying invisible weights. Progress may appear elusive, but it is often our unwillingness to let go of certain areas of our lives that holds us back. Let us look at some of the factors that can block our progress towards a more satisfying life. If you cling to any of these, they could be the anchors that keep you trapped.
Living In The Past: Our lives have been formed by an unchangeable tapestry of events from our history. Dwelling on previous failures, regrets, and disappointments is like carrying a heavy burden that stifles growth. Regret will not change what has occurred. To progress, learn from the past, gather useful lessons, and go on with a lighter heart and a clearer mind.
Trying To Please Everyone: It’s normal to want to make people happy, but not at the expense of your own happiness. Trying to live up to everyone’s expectations is tiresome and impossible. It is not only permissible but also crucial, to say ‘no’ when necessary. You must first appreciate yourself in order to be valued by others.
Resisting Change: Change is a continual force in life, like a never-ending river. Resisting change is like attempting to hold your breath in a fast-flowing river, which will inevitably carry you away. Accepting change opens up new chances, new experiences, and a more vivid existence. If you are afraid and cling to the familiar, let go, venture out of your comfort zone, and find the unexpected.
Negative Mindset: Our thoughts are wired to focus on the negative as a survival mechanism. This intrinsic tendency can be as burdensome as a heavy bag. Seek positivity through being thankful, looking for silver linings amid hardship, and surrounding yourself with optimistic people.
Lack Of Self-Belief: Self-doubt is frequent. When we doubt our worth, knowledge, or courage, we often assume our aspirations are impossible. Recognise your undiscovered potential. Failures and setbacks do not define your worth or competency. Belief in oneself is the only confirmation you need to go on difficult journeys and achieve extraordinary things.
Neglecting Your Health: Neglecting your health is analogous to building on weak foundations. Overwork, poor eating habits, and a lack of exercise are analogous to building on shaky ground. Prioritising one’s health results in more energy, focus, and a more positive attitude toward life. It is the foundation of a thriving existence.
Procrastination: This is a waste of time and opportunity. Postponing duties promotes the delay cycle. Procrastination can be overcome by reducing activities into small pieces, prioritising them, and starting even when motivation is absent. Beginning a task frequently generates momentum, which leads to its effective completion.
Constantly Comparing Yourself To Others: Constantly comparing yourself to others is harmful. It might lead to feelings of inadequacy and unhappiness. Life is not a race or a competition; it is a one-of-a-kind journey for each individual. Progressing at your own speed is more fulfilling than always comparing yourself to others.
Ignoring Your Passion: Ignoring your passion, the activity that brings you delight, is like ignoring a vital part of yourself. Passion is not a luxury, but rather a requirement. It energises, motivates, and brings joy into one’s life. Devote time to your passion, even if it is only a few minutes per day. Get rid of these shackles in your quest for completeness, and you’ll find yourself on a path towards a more fulfilled existence.
Accept change, have faith in yourself, put your health first, and cherish your passion. Also, remember that it is OK to seek assistance when necessary. This is your journey, and by releasing these burdens, you will find a lighter and more joyous path forward.
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Anselm Adodo is the Director of Africa Centre for Integral Research and Development, Nigeria and founder of Arica's foremost herbal research Institute, the Pax Herbal Clinic and Research Laboratories (Paxherbals). His research interest is Phytomedicine, Taxonomy of African medicinal plants, indigenous knowledge systems, rural community development, Africanized economic models, health policy reform, and education transformation in Africa. Apart from publications in journals, magazines, national dailies and peer-reviewed journals, Anselm has written more than ten books. He is an adjunct visiting lecturer at the Institute of African Studies, University of Ibadan, Nigeria, an Adjunct Research Fellow of the Nigerian Institute of Medical Research, a Fellow of the Nigerian Society of Botanists, a Research Associate at the University of Johannesburg, South Africa, and an adjunct professor at Morehouse School of Medicine, Atlanta, Georgia, USA.